When the time comes that a woman gets down to only one bra that fits, something has to be done. Take matters in hand, buck up the courage and visit a corsetiere.
Tell me, am I alone in my detest of going bra shopping? Really, I loathe all the prodding and poking, the lifting and shoving, the strap snapping and critical eyes aimed at my breasts. (Or the region where my breasts ought to be, before gravity won). I am not against nudity, I can strip for doctors without an eyelash bat. Rip off my clothes for a clothes change. But there is just something about being fitted for le brassiere that I am not comfortable with.
I am not a small, dainty lady. None of me has seen a size 12 since I was first pregnant. (Nor, might I add, am I morbidly obese. I am an oompaloompa. Short and round.) I am just a real person. I have real boobs. Bosoms. Bazookas. Big tits. My nick name in high school was boom-boom. You get the idea. So in to a specific department store (recently touted by Trinny and Susannah as the best place in Australia to be fitted for over the shoulder boulder holders) and ask someone who looks older than me, if I could have a specialised fitting, please.
I don’t know why I do this. Maybe it is in hope of experience, after all, she should have seen thousands of titillating sights in her years, there fore having greater experience, yes? She cast an eye over my body, lingers on the chest region. “Oh you will be a 12 C for sure” And ushers me into the change room.
A 12 C????
She has got to be joking. Anyone who knows me, or seen my image knows that I am not a 12 anything. Anywhere. Anytime. And as for a C cup, well, I was a DD last fitting which was quite a few years back, so I don’t like her chances. She brings me in quite a few pretty little numbers. They are nice, too. Lacy and pretty and small. Barbie bras. I raise my eyebrows and look dubiously. She is kidding, right? One of those shop assistants that have a warped sense of humour and enjoy making someone of generous proportions feel more like a beached whale than ever. No? Really? Really. She wants me to try it on, while she goes to fetch more band aids bras.
Have you ever tried to stuff a marshmallow into a thimble? It’s not easy. Bits puff out everywhere and the thimble runs away. Trust me on this. I have tried. Imagine trying to put your pillow in the glovebox of a VW. The straps were so tight they grooved my shoulders. And so short, the under wire did not even reach the base of my breast tissue, but across the middle giving me 4 breasts. I could not even do the back strap up. In vain, I do the circle dance trying to reach the back and hook the clips together, and the blancmange me dances back, reflected so elegantly in the 3 full length mirrors seductively angled so I can see all my wobbly bits at the same time. Ohhh, sexy me. In she comes, and attempts (and succeeds) in doing up the back strap. I now have 8 boobs. 2 under my shoulders, 2 each side of the under wire, and 2 on my back under my bra strap. I can’t breathe.
“Hmm, a little tight” she mused.
Ya think?
She leaves me to get out of the life jacket harness by myself and goes to find a size bigger. The aimed result is to be upwards and outwards. Not flat. I can get a mammogram to do that, and get a rebate on my health insurance. I wonder if she even knows what a tape measure is. Dare I ask? Are you not supposed to measure me for a fitting? Being fitted in this fashion is like being fitted by braille but with more hands on experience. She brings me a size up. Then a cup up. Another size up. Another cup up. Every single one is tried on, me hoisting my boosies manually into the cup – innnnn and uppp! – followed by her twanging, tweaking and twiddling hooks and straps and bits and all. It’s hot in the change room. My mammaries are melting. (That would explain the flatness, then). I am sweaty and red and blotchy and have scratch marks on my body from wrong sized under wires, straps and hooks. The mirror shows someone who is now looking very middle aged, and slightly harassed, hair askew. I hate these trick mirrors. Who stole my body?
Eventually, we get to a size 16 EE. This gives you some idea about the training and experience of the fitter, who started me at a 12 C. By now, she is getting as frustrated as me and I feel like I am supposed to apologise for having milk ducts.
“Well”, she says in an accusatory tone, “We are just about out of bras. Unless we put you in the matronly section. You know, ones that Grannies wear”. Like that’s my fault? I mutter something about grannies being treated with care, and get back into my (own) bra, which fits like a glove.
When I leave the change room, 3 other sales people turn, look at me and (I swear) giggle. I have an overwhelming desire to blow raspberries at them. I pay for my purchase – 2 bras, one respectable work type bra resembling a piece of Roman Armour, and the other, a lacy number which cost more than it would to feed a small country.
I never did see a measuring tape.










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June 4, 2008 at 11:38 am
Mary Paddock
Oh girl. I do feel your pain. I knew we had some things in common, but that isn’t one I’d wish on anyone. :) I hate the stupid things–regardless of whether I’m thick or thin (and I’ve been both).
However I go the Walmart approach and grab a good quality one off the rack and call it good. I could not imagine standing in front of anyone with or without a tape measure and letting them help me decide what size I am (it’s hard enough as it is). You are far more courageous than I am.
My mother, who’s in her early sixties, and not small and is herself very well endowed (all the women in my family are), announced cheerfully a couple of years ago that she wasn’t wearing them anymore. Period. She wears the absolute coolest clothes–the whole layered gypsy look is really her–and you’d never guess she doesn’t wear one. One of my sisters recently followed her lead.
I’m tempted . . . I’m mightily tempted . . .
June 4, 2008 at 3:36 pm
Laura Jane
Ah, yes, it would seem that you didn’t have the best luck with fitters. Its never a pleasant process at the best of times, but that was some underestimate! ANd the manners of the other staff! (please tell me you will send them an anonymous copy of this post for education purposes).
I recently moved from a 18DD to an 18E and it was heavenly, but honestly does ANYONE actually wash their bras by hand?
The most recent purchases have snapped the underwire on 4 pairs! Yes FOUR! – but they are so good and comfortable that I keep going back for more!
June 4, 2008 at 5:18 pm
Bettina
That’s not a fitting, that’s a ‘hit and guess’ by a ‘real-boobaphone’.
I hate bra shopping. Hate it with a passion. Am down to my last one at the moment actually. Am hoping that the underwire doesn’t snap before my next trip out of town to shop.
June 4, 2008 at 5:31 pm
meggie
Oh Alice, I do feel for you! I have done two previous posts on shopping for a bra. Your tale of horror rivals mine, since I have been there done that, with fittings, & now consult myself! But still recoil in horror at those fitting room mirrors! the lights! the thought of hidden cameras & giggling spies!
June 4, 2008 at 6:32 pm
alice
mary, seems we are kindred spirits in a few ways. Anatomy included. I am afraid I am not brave enough to buy ‘off the shelf’ anymore, the variables in fit are so huge. I love your mother’s courage, style – and wisdom!!!
laura jane, another anatomical sister, I find that bra cup sizes are just as variabl as the size of the bra itself. I don,t seem to snap underwires, I wonder why? I don’t handwash either, but I do machine wash in a lingerie bag.
bettina, ‘boob-a-phone’ lol, thanks for the laugh – and good luck not snapping.
meggie, I am off to search your archives. I am glad I am not the only person who dreads hidden cameras. My saving there is – who would want to look at me anyway? :)
June 4, 2008 at 8:37 pm
debby
Oh, gosh. I’ve never even see a corsetiere. It sounds like I’m the lucky one. By the way, I think the name of this post could be ‘Booby Trap’ just as easily as your last post.
June 4, 2008 at 8:49 pm
alice
Ahhhh yes, debby. But then you would never know what store I went to, would you? (Australian Readers Only!)
June 4, 2008 at 10:16 pm
Brissiemum2
Oh, I am so hearing you!
Another ‘boobie’ person here and I so hate bra shopping! I’d rather pluck my eyebrows with pliers (ouch!) than go to those horrid bra fitting women! I go once in a blue moon to ensure that my sizing is right and then ‘go it alone’ for as long as I possibly can!
Mind you, an episode of two of Trinny and Susannah really puts a reality check on it all….omg….they way they handle boobs makes me want to run a mile.
June 5, 2008 at 5:40 am
Melinda
Ohhhhhh my. This girl knows what you’re talking about. The construction of most bras tells me they weren’t designed by a woman, or weren’t designed by a woman of any size. You deserve some kind of prize for sticking it out through that kind of bra-fitting torture. Would you slap me if I told you I had a bit of a giggle myself? Only I was giggling WITH you and not AT you?
June 5, 2008 at 10:01 am
jeanie
ha ha ha ha – there needs to be a Carnival of Bra Shopping Posts!!!
Poor old My Store – what are you paying for if its not snooty ladies who should know your boulder size without measuring?
June 5, 2008 at 5:54 pm
alice
Brissiemum2, from one boobie to another, I hear your anguish. I did lol a little at your eye brow comment, hee hee. I actually would love for T&S to com and revamp my wardrobe – and my inderwear ;)
melinda, you can giggle all you like. It was meant in a humourous light. I wonder at the idea behind the original bra concept – was it to lift and seperate or a sexual item?
jeannie, you summed up My Store just right ;)
June 7, 2008 at 8:58 pm
Bettina
boob-a-phobe was what I meant to say lol
June 10, 2008 at 3:04 am
heartinsanfrancisco
What a great post! I so detest the process that I have been wearing the same bra for YEARS because I can grab as many as I need at Victoria’s Secret and be out of there in minutes, depending on the line at the cashier.
But I still remember my last encounter with a brassiere specialist, and yes, a tape measure was involved.
June 10, 2008 at 3:06 am
heartinsanfrancisco
Oh, and those dressing room mirrors lie. Nobody looks as bad as we all do in there. You would think they’d have soft pink lighting and maybe blur the mirrors a bit if they hope to sell anything.
June 13, 2008 at 8:57 am
Maureen
Thanks for popping by my blog and your sympathetic comments on the 1940 reno!
I lol’ed at this post! I’d never have the guts to write about my shopping experiences, not to mention the Granny Olga’s that are available in my size.
Good for you in not running bra-less but not topless out of that store and persevering in your quest!
June 20, 2008 at 6:08 pm
caramaena
Ok, you’ve just described the reason I’ve never asked for help while bra shopping!
My usual is to roughly guess my size, pick a bra I think looks comfy, and then take as many bras, into the changeroom, as they’ll let me and just try them on (of course there’s no such thing as a standard size between brands/styles). Oh and repeat over and over “no, I’m fine thanks, don’t need any help”. These bra sales people will *not* leave you alone!